That didn’t take long. I’m single once again. But I have a little more insight as to how to get over someone in a hurry because let’s face it, it has to be like pulling off a band-aid and holding your hand over the wound to taper down the sting. Look out for those how-tos later.
Below are some things I can tell you if you WANT to get rid of someone…(even if you really didn’t WANT to).
1. Get very sick and not be as fun anymore. Even if you can’t help that you are sick and have been diagnosed with disease.
2. Express that you no longer feel important in your mate’s life.
3. Tell your mate that you were planning on buying tickets to their favorite performer just for them to tell you that they are pretty sure they will have to work that week. *breathe a sigh of relief that you didn’t buy them before asking*
So that’s really it. Your significant other won’t call you for a week. And so you send one text message to your mate expressing that you have caught the hint and just like that it’s over. Your mate will probably not text or call back. Even if you have had day surgery and they didn’t even wish you well.
It hurts but you will pull yourself back together because afterall, Single IS the new relationship.
I’m just making inferences here, but this guy sounds like what I call an idealizer, that seeming Prince Charming who showers you with attention until you’re hooked (usually lasts no longer than three months), then rapidly loses interest when reality sets in.
I’ve met a number of those guys. As soon as the ride got a little bumpy, even due to something I couldn’t control like physical ailment or job loss, as soon as I started to express any dissatisfaction with the relationship whatsoever…they were gone, often without even a good-bye, which I think is one of the most heartless, inconsiderate, and just plain rude things one human being can do to another.
I will say this, though: I’ve come to believe that men like that don’t want a real relationship. They want the excitement of romance and all that comes with it. It’s not that they’re “just not that into you.” They’re “just not that into” anybody! So, I think no matter what happened–even if you never got sick, even if you stayed mum about his neglect–he still would’ve found a reason to leave. At least, as I said, that’s been my experience of such people.
Girl…this is so damn good, that I may just talk about it at my work blog. I will let you know.
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