So I don’t really want to make this blog mainly about my online dating woes. But today eHarmony has given me much to write about. Hopefully by next week I will have a lot more stories of actually meeting REAL people.
Check this profile out. Remember that some of those answers below are predetermined after you take the personality test. The parts about what you are thankful for and what you do on your leisure time are write-ins. Doesn’t this just sniff of spam? Either I’m being spammed with bogus matches to make me feel like I’m all “popular” or someone has hacked eHarmony’s system. Either way, those 29 or so dimensions really seem like a memory…
The guy’s name is BC. Yea. Right…
The one thing bc is most passionate about:
- awesome
The three things which bc is most thankful for:
- apples
- trees
- life
bc’s friends describe him as:
- Ambitious
- Intelligent
- Easy-Going
- Good Listener
Three of bc’s best life-skills are:
- Creating a peaceful, beautiful home environment
- Long-term personal planning
- Achieving personal goals
bc typically spends his leisure time:
- sweet
When I was on E-Harmony I saw so many of these…what this is my friend is one of the thousands upon thousands of people who went into e-harmony – took the test – filled out a profile (very quickly) – because you have to before you can see your matches. And then – they ditch out without actually paying for the service. The problem is – E-Harmony keeps them in the system and leaves their matching on.
Try to communicate with him – bet you money he’s not a paying member. E-harmony sucks! Seriously. If they would just stop sending dead matches to people the site would be so much better. Let me know if I’m wrong…and check out my E-harmony reviews on my blog. – MsSingleMama.com. I recommend sites where you can search men yourself, like Match.com or Yahoo.com – at least you know they’re active.
Also there’s Oodle.com … a rival to Craigslist but you can check all of the profiles in your area for free and there’s plentyoffish.com which is completely free.
Good luck! There are some good matches on E-Harmony. If you live in a big city you should have better luck. Keep us posted!!
I received a match on eharmony by the name of Thomas Brown..after much emailing and instant messaging..we trade phone numbers..i speak with him and the only thing i can think of is that the voice does not match the picture…then he tells me hes in the UK..and just last night …he explains how he needs money in order to get home due to a failed contract..eharmony needs to do a better job at verifying peoples information…i suspect that the picture that is shown on eharmony is not the person who is communicating with me..for all i know the person who is chatting with me is commiting ID theft in trying to defraud people..i wrote eharmony an email..not expecting anything to be done..but iam just letting other people know whats going on out there
He is either as you said “spam” or her is lacking an important component in his life which is called character, or simply put …..he is just dumb.
Don’t even get me started on eHarmony. They charge more than any other dating site yet limit your possibility of finding a mate and your input in the matter more than any other site, too.
I don’t know anyone who’s ever had success with eHarmony. I myself was one of the infamous “rejected 20%,” and so was a creative, talented, free-thinking, loyal, witty friend of mine who ended up finding the perfect match on Yahoo Personals just a few months later. They’ve been together about three years. Meanwhile, one of the most emotionally disturbed people I know passed the eHarmony entrance exam with flying colors and was matched with a bulimic, chronically unfaithful girl who’d been divorced by the age of 23!
I’ve also heard a gem of a story from a couple who met at a social event and married a short time later. Turned out they were both on eHarmony at the same time and lived in the same city, but on that site they were ships passing in the night, probably because eHarmony doesn’t believe that people with a height differential of more than 5 inches or an age difference of more than 5 years could possibly be a good match!
I’d avoid it like the plague.
Re: to Lisa Sierra.
He is NOT real. He is what is called a 419 scammer, or a 419 Nigerian scammer. They are men who work out of Nigeria, UK, and other countries scamming people. It is becoming a classic online dating scam. They lie. The profile you see is NOT real.The photo is stolen from someone else. Google ’419 scam’. These men are very good at what they do—they know how to emotionally manipulate lonely women, and reel them in, and then get them to send money by either divulging back accounts, credit card numbers, or by wiring money by Western Union. Don’t fall for their scams.
I had the same experience on eharmony with some scammers. Stuff like ‘oh I am on a trip in the UK and need money for a kidney’ or ‘I flew into London and someone stole my credit cards and money and I need you to send money asap.’ The lies grew and grew and grew.
Don’t fall for these scammers.
BEWARE OF MITCH DAVIDSON…SCAMMER still on Eharmony
June 12, 2008
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Occupation: Civil Engineer.
Age: 48
Height: 6′ 2″
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Match Delivered: April 30, 2008
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Religion: Christian
Want Kids: Maybe
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never
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The “About Me” information below will help you learn more about Mitch. You first viewed this information on April 30, 2008, 04:22AM PDT.
The one thing Mitch is most passionate about:
I’m quite passionate about my work as it takes me to various part of the world thereby exposing me to alot of things.
The three things which Mitch is most thankful for:
My Life
Salvation
Susan my little daughter.
The most influential person in Mitch’s life has been:
Christ Jesus.
Mitch’s friends describe him as:
Affectionate
Generous
Kind
Passionate
Three of Mitch’s best life-skills are:
Creating romance in a relationship
Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
The most important thing Mitch is looking for in a person is:
Kindness.
The first thing you’ll probably notice about Mitch when you meet him:
My kindness,generousity,and my life in Christ.
Mitch typically spends his leisure time:
Attending mass and other church activities regularly,going to the movies,and listening to music.
The things Mitch can’t live without are:
Praising God
reading the bible
spending time with my little daughter
excersising
Going to the movies
The last book Mitch read and enjoyed:
Jeremiah 29:11,and the quotation is all about the good plans that our father has for us his children,plan to prosper us. it’s my favorite verse and i love it because it inspires me to forge ahead whenever i’m down.
One thing that only Mitch’s best friends know is:
Well i’m a very shy person even though i don’t appear to be,and i think thats the only thing that only my friends know about me.
Some additional information Mitch wanted you to know is:
hmmm well i would like them to be aware of my salvation and dedication to God almighty..i’m a serious practising christian.
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I am glad to have found this. I am in the midst of the Mitch Davidson scam on LawofAttractionSingles.com which is a spiritual site and thought I could trust…of course hackers are nondiscriminatory about where they hack, just that they do.
My last email he is supposedly in the UK on his job as Civil Engineer, I am sure the next step will be his contract fell through and I will get a request for money. I had a suspicion about him and thanks to your site which showed up when I googled his name, it was verified….so thanks so much. I think there needs to be general site that lists hackers and scammers that people have experienced that we would know as well as Craig’s list
especially since this online dating thing has gotten so big.
Anyhow, thanks, I appreciated getting the insight. Sharon
Here’s at least one more for EHarmony:
Mavin Jones. Same scenario appeared he lived in FL, after communicating states is in UK offshore/exploration drilling. After quickly expressing emotion, he advised stranded in some other country and requested I send him money. I refused, and he IS STILL trying to get me to change my mind. I guess I will be opening a new e-mail account.
Same scenario here. I met this guy on eharmony names Michael Ward. He stated that he was traveling to Nigeria with his son for business. After a few emails, he stated that he was in love with me. We talked all the time thru yahoo messenger and emails for several weeks. Then, he told me that their was a riot there and he needed to get home. He asked me for $6000.00. I told him no, then he came back and said that his dad gave him half the money. I thought that I was in love with me because he new exactly what to say to help me fall in love with him. WATCH OUT GIRLS!! He is still on eharmony and just wants your money.
I had a very similar experience with a “Timothy” from seattle. After a few weeks of communication he suddenly had to go to London to visit his son and work on a oil rig. Claimed to have a Masters degree and was an engineer. Has anyone ever heard of him????
I apologize in advance for this long message, but I thought it was important to warn all good people about the bad ones on internet dating sites, especially eHarmony.
eHarmony (and probably other internet dating sites) has been severely penetrated by scammers. I would estimate that 40-50% of my matches are scams. Only a few of the matches are real people. Through my experience as a victim of scamming, here are some things that just screams SCAM!
**6′ engineer white (but other ethnicities and occupations are used too!)
**Rush to communicate on Yahoo
**Model-like pictures (or more recently no picture at all)
**Double punctuation marks (like two periods, two semicolons, etc.) at the end of phrases/sentences, indicating that they are just pasting in comments
**Excessive use of “…” and running together of multiple phrases (e.g., likes boating….romancing…shopping), another indication of pasting in their “boilerplate” responses
**Misspelled words, wrong words, erroneous sentence structure – just bad writing in a way that shows that English is not his/her native language
**Call you babe, sweetie, or anything but your name because they can’t risk calling you by someone else’s name who they are also trying to scam
**Fall in love quickly
**Ask you for anything and I mean anything (they don’t know you!)
**Rush off to Africa, UK or anywhere out of the states
**Excessive use of “hmmmm…”
**Excessive use of emoticons, brb, lol (text language) and lower case I “i” when communicating
**Always “looking for love” or “honesty” (which is so ironic!), and “a partner for life” – and other similar language
**Excessive use of God or christianity (esp. if on eHarmony)
**Accent not consistent with their alleged ethnicity
**Tragic loss of a spouse
**Send Internet poems via yahoo
**Doesn’t show up at all on a Google search (something/anything should come up on this person)
**Gives bogus information in response to pointed questions about the city in which s/he allegedly lives (always ask about the city, their favorite hangouts, favorite restaurants, etc.) and you’ll find that they take a lot of time to answer because they are looking it up in Google – As a matter of fact, I had one person paste in a restaurant review in response to my question about his favorite hangout – What a loser!
IF TWO OR MORE OF THESE ARE PRESENT, I’LL BET YOU ARE DEALING WITH A SCAMMER. THEY ARE SUCH LOSERS AND TOO STUPID TO CHANGE THEIR MOTIS OPERANDI!
In fact, I hated to tip them off with this message, but I figured it is more important to warn good people about these evil deeds. So ladies and gentleman, please beware of these vultures. Even if they change most of the things listed above, just remember — if they ask you for anything, chances are they are trying to SCAM you.
I so needed that laugh. Thx for the post!!
I have no problem paying for a service that works. As a guy, I can say E-harmony is the worst of the worst of online dating sites. That is my experience. Now I will say the creator of that service expertly plays to women’s insecurities and fears. Most online dating services in the USA men outnumber women at least 2 to 1. But I have heard it is the other way around at E-harmony. For me as a guy it is not worth the time, you jump through a lot of hoops and end up with essentially nothing. A big waste of time and money. NEVER EVER AGAIN!
of course internet dating is the trend these days, you can meet lots of people on the internet ;”
Cheers for the purpose of sharing plus a review of myself it.